 I know. Everyone says, “I hate going to the dentist.” But not everyone says it in the screaming, overemphasized, “I HATE GOING TO THE DENTIST!!!!” way that I say it. Most people, though they are uncomfortable with instruments, drills and hands in their mouths, suck it up, grit those teeth on their good side and stoically march to the dental chair with the air of one heading to an execution. I, however, hold each side of the doorway moulding with fingers of steel, while wedging my feet at each corner of the bottom of the door frame and dare anyone to push or pull me through. There is no screaming. There is no crying. There is just a resolute, “uh-uh – not gonna do it.”  I believe the beginning of this abnormal relationship with dentistry began when I was six years old. It was at that time I determined, with what little deductive reasoning a first grader may possess, that [parents = gift after dentist = pain → parents = good such that dentists = mean]. My first journey into this equation involved the fact that my baby teeth were falling out in God’s time and not Man’s time. Because Man’s time is the guage most depended upon by the medical community, it was decided that a few of my teeth had to go, in order to make room for those adult teeth which God’s time had not even produced yet. That encounter gleaned me a small, shiny, red bike with training wheels. A few years later, my final “dental trip-equals-gift” experience also included removing baby teeth but I had progressed to the fourth grade and wasn’t so easy to bribe. I had graduated to a full meal at my favorite McDonald’s Hamburger restaurant and the movie, FLIPPER, on the big screen. It was later that I realized that my parents and my dentist were in cahoots and I no longer cut my parents any slack.  In the summer after eighth grade – at that awkward age of 14 – my parents took me to a dentist who then sent me to an orthodontist. I had no clue what that was, but because the dentist didn’t do anything to me except clean my teeth, I figured this new kind of doctor couldn’t be all bad. The orthodontist ‘ummed’ and ‘ohhhed’ as he pulled my cheeks back, pushed my gums and tapped different teeth. My parents tried to squash the tendency to lean over to look at what he was observing. Finally, the awful verdict was issued and my parents checked me into a hospital to have MORE teeth extracted and wires put under my gums around hidden canines with a prognosis of 5 years in braces. My parents let me start high school, the angst of every budding teen, with stitches in my gums, unable to smile and with lips the size of a cartoon character. Several weeks later came the inevitable ‘railroad tracks’ which then became my nickname. And to make matters worse, there was no prize, no gift, no bribe to lift my self-esteem. Evidently, I had “grown up”. To add to my misery, I had to stretch tiny little rubber bands from a metal hook attached to the wire under my gum on each side of my upper mouth to a metal hook on a band around a bottom molar on each side of my lower jaw. These rubber bands were no bigger around than the end of a large pencil and so the pressure on them was enormous. Teachers and friends alike had to pay attention where they were standing in proximity to my face because when I spoke, it was not unusual for my mouth to shoot a rubber band with the accuracy of a slingshot. “Humiliation” became a new variable in dentistry for me. I wore those braces through my first year in college and today, as a result of all that effort and humiliation and thousands of dollars, I can smile with a mouthful of fewer teeth, visible canines and pearly-not-so-whites that look like a row of dominoes after a minor earthquake.  Then came the extraction of four wisdom teeth which also had to be done in the hospital because it was in the stone-age, also known as the ‘70’s. The young man who was next in line for surgery, lying on his gurney outside the surgery room door, could hear the surgeon grunting and yelling because my mouth was so small and my teeth were so big. That evening, this same young man came to my room to see how I was doing (and to brag that he was getting a steak from Steak and Ale), only to find me with a swollen face, bruised cheeks, mouth split at each corner and begging for morphine. Two dry sockets later, I vowed that dentistry was akin to torture. My disgust for all things dentist was established for life. Fast forward to last week. I had broken a tooth – I’m talkin’ 2/3 of that sucker was gone. I wasn’t crazy about our family dentist office and I figured it was time for a change. So, I found a new dentist, in the Yellow Pages, whose sole attraction was the words, “Comfortable and Stress-Free.” Comfortable and Stress-Free is good! And they really are gentle at OKC Smiles in Oklahoma City. I loved the office workers. Those people were so nice and they made great effort to make me feel comfortable and welcome. I got my teeth cleaned without the usual bleeding gums, swollen cheeks and uncomfortable throb throughout the next day. I was not the least bit perturbed about this dentist working on my teeth because the atmosphere was so relaxing. That is, until I was informed that the broken tooth would involve a root canal. A root canal? I had heard of those things and nothing about them had been good. In fact, I had heard horror stories about them and so, when my new dentist friend informed me that he does “sedation dentistry” my answer to his question of , “Do you want to be sedated?” was, “How stupid do I look? Ok, don’t answer that question. Yes.” I was given a little blue pill and sent home with directions to take it one hour prior to my next appointment. Oh yes, and Mr. Fix-It was to be my designated driver. On the day of my major surgery – ok, so when it comes to dental work, I like to exaggerate – Mr. Fix-It and I headed out the door to drive the nearly hour it takes to get to my new dentist. I had taken the pill and was happily waiting for it to kick in. Halfway to the office, Mr. Fix-It realized that he didn’t know where he was going and turned to ask me directions. My chin was slumped against my chest. I was snoring. He managed to wake me to get spotty information and attempted to find the dental clinic. He was smart – or just lucky, but he found it and helped me out of the car. I did not hold to the door frame or refuse to enter, but obediently shuffled into the plush waiting room to sit down with Mr. Fix-It at my side. From that point on, all I have is Mr. Fix-It’s version of the story. According to him, my head lolled downward and to the side when, all of a sudden, I hiccupped. I didn’t just do a little hiccup. I let loose with a high-pitched, body-wrenching, air-gulping hiccup and my head flew backwards. My chin then dropped back down onto my chest and I hiccupped again, going through the same motions of head pitching backward and then slumping forward. This continued as my dear husband, who is supposed to be my advocate and protector, could not contain himself and exploded into gales of laughter. Another patient, a man, entered the waiting area and sat down across from us just as I let loose with another jarring hiccup. He looked embarrassed for me and Mr. Fix-It said, “She’s sedated. She gets these hiccups sometimes.” I let loose with a big one. Mr. Fix-It giggled loudly. Thankfully, the nurse ushered me to the dental chair and got the hiccups stopped. My kindly dentist did his work, determining that I did not need a root canal after all. Tooth temporarily capped, I was carefully monitored for blood pressure and heart rate and the hiccups commenced again. Mr. Fix-It assured me that they reverberated throughout the entire building. I am wondering what the office personnel are saying about that day. Do they have conversations that begin with, “Did you hear that lady….?” or “Was that hilarious or what?!” I have to go back to have the permanent cap affixed. I am not sure I can show my face.  All I know is that dentists and I have a very strained relationship. However, I think that if this new one will still have me, I will stay in his care because I have to admit that my experience there has been the most pleasant of any. I will say, though, I don’t think I’ll be taking any of those little blue pills again. As I told Mr. Fix-It, while still in an inebriated state, I think, next time, I’ll take some of that “Noxious Oxide” instead. Somehow, I have a feeling that my inserting “noxious” for “nitrous” is a harbinger of things to come. |
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Oh, MB, Rotflmbo!!!! With the exception of braces into college, you told my story!
You’re so funny! What a fantastic post. My sided ache! The cable guy is here, installing our new satellite, and he probably thinks this lady is looney! Sitting here, laughing with my phone in my hand….
I’m glad you found a dentist where you are as comfortable as you can be. It’s a blessing to find a dentist who gives a darn, and is truely gentle. My mama was a dental assistant, so all her friends were in dentistry….I had more x-rays, tooth extractions, sealants, but never a cavity, and the best rated, highest rated orthodontist in all of the Bay Area…. I lived in a dentist’s chair, and I have never had anything wrong with my teeth!! Far as I’m concerned, they should have kept the chair open for the kids who needed it! I recently had to draw the line, when my kids came home from a visit with my.mama, and when I asked what they did, their answer wad “we went to grandma’s dumb dentist, again.” AGAIN???? When was the first time? “Last visit to grandmas…” craziness!
Well, I am so glad that you got a laugh and that the cable guy got an earful! 🙂 I have a funny feeling that my story is pretty much everybody’s story at some point!! 🙂
Glad you are on the mend. We are potty training at our house and learning better teeth brushing skills. My youngest son announced our bulldog (as she touzled behind him while he brushed his teeth at the bathroom sink) “Mommy, bullies butt has bad breath”… hmmm
Out of the mouths of babes? 🙂
Your dental story is similar to mine. Started before Kindergarten with my first dentist visit removing 4 baby teeth and filling 5 cavities. Fast forward to the week before 2nd grade. I was playing outside and fell, knocking out 1 permanent front tooth(that had just come in) and 4 other baby teeth. Emergency dental work provided me with a mouthful of stitches (black) for the first day of school. I ended up with braces 3 separate times in my life before I was 18, a permanent retainer, a false tooth on a retainer (several years worth), spacers, and finally a tooth moved from the side to the front and capped.
I didn’t even think about rebelling while going through all the dental/orthodontic stuff, but as soon as it was over, I gave in to the fear and refused to even think about a dentist visit.
A couple of years ago, my brother married a very nice girl, except for one thing, she was a dental hygienist for her dentist father. I thought for sure that meant she was mean and into torture. lol. One day, I came to the end of my rope (pain) and my husband called my sister in law. He explained the situation and also the fact that for some reason the metal tools were one of the biggest culprits of my fear. Her dad the dentist, set up all the tools in the cubicle and used only plastic or rubber ones while working on my teeth. Now I think he and my sister in law are amazing.
But I am still not going there without one of those magic blue pills. They didn’t make me hiccup, but they worked quite nicely.
Tricia, I’d say that our stories are definitely similar, only I think your childhood experiences were worse than mine!. Poor you! I’ve never been able to take sedatives very well. I usually have a really bad response that varies from having a very hard time waking up to hanging from the chandelier and calling for a picnic with take-out Chinese food. I think I’m going to have to try the gas next and see how I do!!
It is so difficult to get over dental fears! Especially since they have valid reasons for existing. Sedation dentistry is the way to go! Nitrous works well, also. I bet the sedation pill is cheaper though. I’ve been working in the dental field since I was 16 (I’m 55 now) there are actually some people that enjoy getting their teeth cleaned. I don’t know of anyone who enjoys dental work by the dentist. Keep flossing and get work done while it is small.
Oh! I’m sure I have the most crowns & root canals in the family. I even have an implant in my jaw & it has a crown on it. That was fun
Yikes!!!